Decisiveness
“the ability to make decisions quickly and confidently”
I don’t know about you but most times I can make a decision but I’m not always sure it’s done confidently. Sometimes it’s more like “just pick one” and “jump in”…with fingers crossed.
For a long time I felt like I was in a room staring at a bunch of closed doors. Each door had a sign with its option title on it. I would look at each door and worry about the consequences of that choice. “What if it didn’t work out?” “What if it turns out to be a mistake?” “What if I don’t like it?” and so on.
We forget that we can also ask the opposite questions: “What if it works out?” “What if it turns out to be the best decision of my life?” “What if not only do I like but I LOVE it?” We seem to overlook these thought-provoking questions.
We also tend to forget that we’ve made decisions before and survived them…the good and the bad. In actuality, even our bad decisions weren’t necessarily bad…we gained some information we didn’t have before. Our confidence comes from reminding ourselves of our ability to handle what comes our way. It may not always be elegant or joyful, but we’ve handled. We can handle it again.
I’m thinking of my first marriage. Was it really a bad decision? In some regards yes, but in other ways I learned what I didn’t want in a marriage, I had some fascinating experiences that would not have happened otherwise, and, most importantly, I learned to re-connect with my True Self.
The third thing we forget is that we have the option to change our minds, to make a different decision. While I decided to marry that first guy, I also decided to not be married to him any more. And then, years later…I decided to marry again…to a different guy this time. We just celebrated our 34th wedding anniversary. And yes, it was one of the best decisions I ever made.
When it comes to making decisions, being indecisiveness keeps us stuck, in an holding pattern with no place to go…nothing to do…except wallow in our fear and worry. Being decisive (at the very least) keeps us moving forward, giving us more opportunities to make more moving-forward decisions. Which sounds more appealing to you?
How about you? Is decisiveness a core value for you?
BTW…here’s what it looked like to begin with …
joyfully,
Maureen
The Mandala Lady
bringing sanity to an insane world through the art of mandalas
About the 2024 Mandalas of the Day
Each day I will create and post a mandala inspired by one of 366 “value” words chosen randomly. The objective being to discover for myself which ones would best represent my core values…and by doing so, I hope it inspires you to determine your own.
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