Why Are You Doing It ?
Our focus this week — July 30-Aug 5: “Boundaries”
Today’s MotD: Why Are You Doing It ? Part of setting boundaries is also knowing the answer to the question “Why Are You Doing It ?” It applies to two different perspectives. The first being: why are you wanting to set a boundary ? What purpose does it serve ? Is it to our detriment or benefit ?
Secondly it applies to when we’ve agreed to do something or we’re continuing to enable a certain behavior (someone else’s or our own). What’s our why for agreeing to do something ? Is it fear based ? ego based ? or is it truly something we want to do ? (see yesterday’s post).
If it pertains to enabling behavior that’s detrimental to us in some way, why are we allowing it ? What purpose does it serve ? What’s the challenge with setting a boundary ?
Like anything else, we are encouraged to always look at our “whys” for doing anything…to challenge them. Actually an excellent exercise in getting to the bottom of our “whys” is to keep asking “why” after each of our responses, up to 4 or 5 times or more, until we get to the heart of it.
For instance, as part of a weight/health analysis I’m doing, I’m supposed to answer the question: why do I want to lose weight ? And when I answer, I’m to ask repeated ask “why” after my responses until I get to the real “why”. I’ve been putting it off for four days now. So I’m going to do the exercise right now.
Why do you want to lose weight ? Because I want to feel good in my body. Why ? I’m tired of the fat parts of my body bumping into things and knocking things over. Why ? Because it’s embarrassing and annoying. Why ? Because it makes me look stupid, clumsy, and incompetent. Why ? Because thinner, fitter people seem to move around with more grace and confidence and I’m jealous. Why ? Because I see them as being better than me. Why ? Because if I had my shit together I could be thinner, fitter, more confident, and more graceful. Why ? Because if I was a better person I wouldn’t be overweight, I’d be thinner, fitter, more confident, and more graceful. <== there it is.
How about you ? So, what’s your why for doing anything as it relates to setting boundaries? What boundaries are you needing to set ? Why ?
BTW…Here’s the before…the front and back view of today’s puzzle piece and the pretty ceramic box that holds all my numbers from which I randomly choose each day’s puzzle piece number:
Peace & Blessings,
Maureen
The Mandala Lady
Creating Mandalas 🔆 Awakening Inner Harmony
ABOUT THE 2025 Mandalas of the Day
Throughout the year, I’ll be building one large (48”x48”) Tibetan-styled Mandala one piece at a time…one puzzle piece at a time, that is. The mandala design and the reversed puzzle side were printed on artist-quality watercolor paper. The forward facing puzzle side was printed on a 48”x48” wood panel.
Each day, at random, I’ll be painting in watercolors one of the 365 watercolor puzzle pieces, that by the end of the year will become Archangel Mandala #4. Read more about the Archangel Series. The word/message for each piece will be inspired by Melody Beattie’s book “52 Weeks of Conscious Contact”.
Ultimately, the message of this mandala is about how we are all uniquely part of the one.
Mandala of the Day 