Wouldn’t a Little Help Be Nice ?
Our focus this week — Sep 17-23: “Letting Someone Help”
Today’s MotD: Wouldn’t a Little Help Be Nice? Yes, wouldn’t it be nice ? You know what else would be nice, is if we give people the opportunity to help us, especially when they’ve made the generous offer to want to help.
For instance, back in my youth (around 9yo), my mom was working hard in the kitchen to prepare a festive meal for our family and our guests. I felt so bad for her and helpless because I didn’t know what to do to help…and I truly wanted to help her.
So I went up to her as she was bent down over the open door of the oven basting some kind of roast and asked her “is there anything I can do to help” ? I’ll never forget the frustrated look on her hot, sweaty face and the anger in her strained voice as she replied “if you don’t know what needs to be done, then I can’t help you”. I. was. crushed. Now, not only did I feel helpless, I also felt guilt and shame for not being able to figure out what needed to be done to ease her pain and suffering.
Here’s the thing with rejecting help from others, we have no idea how it affects them, how it may hurt them. We’re afraid of being a burden so we reject help. Someone wants to help us because they care and they see that we may be struggling and we basically tell them “I don’t need your help…I don’t want help from you…you can’t help me…etc.” Ouch.
Essentially we’re being reminded that two players are involved when it comes to help: the person offering to help and the person who receives that help. We may be so deeply entrenched in thinking we’re not deserving of help (for whatever reason), that we forget how it may affect the other person when we reject them. Just something to consider for the next time.
How about you ? What’s usually your main reason for turning down help ? When you do, does it occur to you how it may make the other person feel ? Receiving is a two-sided transaction (giving and receiving), can you see how it may be seen as hurtful to reject the help especially deep down when we know it would be really nice to have some help ?
BTW…Here’s the before…the front and back view of today’s puzzle piece and the pretty ceramic box that holds all my numbers from which I randomly choose each day’s puzzle piece number:
Peace & Blessings,
Maureen
The Mandala Lady
Creating Mandalas 🔆 Awakening Inner Harmony
ABOUT THE 2025 Mandalas of the Day
Throughout the year, I’ll be building one large (48”x48”) Tibetan-styled Mandala one piece at a time…one puzzle piece at a time, that is. The mandala design and the reversed puzzle side were printed on artist-quality watercolor paper. The forward facing puzzle side was printed on a 48”x48” wood panel.
Each day, at random, I’ll be painting in watercolors one of the 365 watercolor puzzle pieces, that by the end of the year will become Archangel Mandala #4. Read more about the Archangel Series. The word/message for each piece will be inspired by Melody Beattie’s book “52 Weeks of Conscious Contact”.
Ultimately, the message of this mandala is about how we are all uniquely part of the one.
Mandala of the Day 