”Acceptance is observation of life
and suspension of judgement
about whether what is happening
is good or bad, right or wrong.”
— Ron Smotherman
“Accept — then act.
Whatever the present moment contains,
accept it as if you had chosen it.
Always work with it, not against it…
This will miraculously
transform your whole life.”
— Eckhart Tolle
“When you invoke the agent of change
called acceptance, you must accept
all that you are, all that you’ve been,
and all that you will be in the future.”
— Debbie Ford
Today’s MotD inspires us to see beyond whatever chaos, crisis, or issues (internally or externally) causing us angst and come from a place of acceptance (not condoning, acceptance…ie: it is what it is). Because it is from this place that we see more clearly, more objectively, our options, solutions, and potential.
When it comes to situations involving other people, places, or things, acceptance usually means finding ways to be okay with them or letting them go in some way.
For instance, years ago I used complain A LOT about a job I had. A friend, who basically got tired of me complaining and being all victim-y, suggested I go find another job. At the time it wasn’t a viable option. She then offered this perspective: every morning decide whether to go into work or not. If I decided to go in, then that was my decision, I was in control (instead of being a victim). I learned to accept that the job was what it was and I was consciously choosing to go into work. Soon after, a better job opportunity opened up for me that was far more rewarding.
When comes to our own personal acceptance, which can sometimes be more challenging to do, it requires self-awareness, self-compassion, and self-care. Instead of beating ourselves up about what we detest about ourselves, it’s time to stop, to be more forgiving. Would we be this hard on our friends?
If it helps, make a list or journal about the parts of ourselves that we have trouble accepting. Write as if we’re writing to a dear friend who was later going to read what you wrote.
We are being encouraged to accept (and make peace with) all parts of ourselves. If we want to change any of it, we can do so from this healthier, objective perspective.
“The first step toward change
The second step
— Nathaniel Branden
The Mandala Lady
btw…started with this…