“Anytime we can listen to true self— Parker Palmer
and give it the care it requires,
we do so not only for ourselves
but for the many others
whose lives we touch.”
“What does it mean— Heather Plett
to hold space for someone else?
It means that we are willing to walk
alongside another person
in whatever journey they’re on
without judging them,
making them feel inadequate,
trying to fix them,
or trying to impact the outcome.
When we hold space for other people,
we open our hearts,
offer unconditional support,
and let go of judgement and control.”
“As you grow older,— Maya Angelou
you will discover
that you have two hands,
one for helping yourself,
the other for helping others.”
Today’s MotD reminds us about holding space for ourselves. Often times it “seems” much easier to hold space for others than for ourselves; but are we truly holding space or are we going through the motions, trying to be a good friend while sacrificing our own needs in the process.
To truly hold space for others, we need to know how to hold space for ourselves first. In a nutshell it means to hear what we’re saying to ourselves without judgement, conditions, putting ourselves down, or trying to fix. Usually what sounds like negative speak inside is really a wounded part that wants us to truly hear what it’s saying and what it needs.
One way we can hold space is by journaling, allowing us to carry on a conversation with our inner wounded selves. We could use our dominant hand to write questions to that part of ourself, and let the non-dominant hand write the response. Going back and forth between the two can offer enlightening insights and perspectives.
The Mandala Lady
btw…started with this: